No flowers, no candy, no problem

“For great is your love, reaching to the heavens;
your faithfulness reaches to the skies.” –Psalm 57:10

Another Valentine’s Day has come and gone. Flowers will wither, candy will be eaten, cards will be tossed or treasured, and those who received nothing will breathe a sigh of relief that the day for lovers is over.

I used to be one of those. Since 2001 I have been single. At first, it bothered me that I had no significant other with whom to share the day of romantic love, which actually has its origins in various legends, including that of the martyred saint, Valentine, who was a Christian.

Did you know that approximately 150 million Valentine’s Day cards are exchanged annually, making Valentine’s Day the second most popular card-sending holiday after Christmas? That boggles my mind.

One thing, however, that I have learned about this day of romantic love is that I no longer dread it, even though I still don’t have a significant other. I don’t miss the flowers, the candy or the card. Why?

I have come to realize that humans will disappoint us. Because we are all desperate to love and be loved, we search for meaning and significance. But we search for those things in all the wrong places. We think another human can make us happy. Ah, but there’s the rub. We place our hopes and dreams in another person who will ultimately not live up to our expectations.

I have learned that it is only through a personal relationship with my Savior that I can experience authentic love. His love replaces thoughts of rejection and banishes feelings of abandonment. Through the priceless gift of God’s sacrifice, we can finally comprehend the most amazing truth. We were planned before we were ever conceived in our mother’s wombs. We were created in HIS heart. We were wanted. “For God so loved the world, that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

Isn’t that a reason to celebrate?

 

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Everyday Graces

Sometimes a daily devotional strikes my soul to the very core because I think God knew I needed to read it that particular day. Has that every happened to you? I wanted to share Julie Clinton’s Everyday Graces with you today because too many times, I think we are so busy we forget to notice. Enjoy Julie’s message today. I know I did.

“From the fullness of His grace we have all received one blessing after another.” John 1:16

Most of the time we refer to the gift of salvation as a gift of grace. But God’s grace also comes in tiny little packages marked “FREE GIFT” inside. Each day God presents gifts of His grace. Most of the time we take them for granted.

Take some time to appreciate some of these gifts:

  • freedom to be real
  • quiet moments
  • walking
  • a friend who listens
  • a sunrise
  • the brilliant colors of spring
  • knowing you’re loved
  • a child’s hug

Start looking at each of these as little dreams come true. God’s dream for us unfolds in thousands of little ways through everyday graces He places in our lives.

Too often we are just too busy to notice. Or, we are so eager to have the big dream come true we forget to watch for little things that are the dream coming true.

Most Christians can trust God for Heaven – Eternity with Him, but we can’t trust Him for everyday life.  Start seeing and living differently…it will turn your life around!

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God Lives Under My Bed

Jesus said, Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of heaven belongs to such as these.” Matthew 19:14 (NIV)

I wanted to share the following story. I don’t know who wrote it but I have read it more than once when a friend has emailed it to me. Thank you Kevin’s brother for sharing it with others. We could all learn a lesson from the Kevin’s in the world. Don’t you agree? If this story touched you like it has me, please click on the comments link after this entry and share this post with others who need to know Kevin.

I envy Kevin. My brother, Kevin, thinks God lives under his bed. At least that’s what I heard him say one night. He was praying aloud in his dark bedroom, and I stopped to listen, “Are you there, God?” he said. “Where are you? Oh, I see. Under the bed.”

I giggled softly and tiptoed off to my own room. Kevin’s unique  perspectives are often a source of amusement. But that night something  else lingered long after the humor. I realized for the first time the very different world Kevin lives in. He was born 30 years ago, mentally disabled as a result of difficulties during labor. Apart from his size, (he’s 6 foot 2 inches), there are few ways in which he is an adult. He reasons and communicates with the capabilities of a 7-year-old, and he always will. He will probably always believe that God lives under his bed, that Santa Claus is the one who fills the space under our tree every Christmas and that airplanes stay up in the sky because angels carry them.

I remember wondering if Kevin realizes he is different. Is he ever dissatisfied with his monotonous life?  He’s up before dawn each day, off to work at a workshop for the disabled, home to walk our Cocker Spaniel, return to eat his favorite macaroni-and-cheese for dinner and later to bed.The only variation in the entire scheme is laundry, when he hovers excitedly over the washing machine like a mother with her newborn child. He does not seem dissatisfied.

He lopes out to the bus every morning at 7:05, eager for a day of simple work.  He wrings his hands excitedly while the water boils on the stove  before dinner, and he stays up late twice a week to gather our dirty laundry for his next day’s laundry chores.

And Saturdays – oh, the bliss of Saturdays! That’s the day my Dad takes Kevin to the airport to have a soft drink, watch the planes land, and speculate loudly on the destination of each passenger inside. “That one’s goin’ to Chi-car-go!”  Kevin shouts as he claps his hands. His anticipation is so great he can hardly sleep on Friday nights.

And so goes his world of daily rituals and weekend field trips. He doesn’t know what it means to be discontent. His life is simple. He will never know the entanglements of wealth of power, and he does not care what brand of clothing he wears or what kind of food he eats. His needs have always been met, and he never worries that one day they may not be.

His hands are diligent. Kevin is never as happy as when he is working. When he unloads the dishwasher or vacuums the carpet, his heart is completely in it. He does not shrink from a job when it is begun, and he does not leave a job until it is finished. But when his tasks are done, Kevin knows how to relax. He is not obsessed with his work or the work of others. His heart is pure. He still believes everyone tells the truth, promises must be kept, and when you are wrong, you apologize instead of argue.

Free from pride and unconcerned with appearances, Kevin is not afraid to cry when he is hurt, angry or sorry. He is always transparent, always sincere. And he trusts God. Not confined by intellectual reasoning, when he comes to the Lord, he comes as a child. Kevin seems to know God—to really be friends with Him in a way that is difficult for an “educated” person to grasp. God seems like his closest companion.

In my moments of doubt and frustrations with my beliefs, I envy the security Kevin has in his simple faith. It is then I am most willing to admit that he has some divine knowledge that rises above my mortal questions. It is then I realize that perhaps he is not the one with the handicap.

I am. My obligations, my fear, my pride, my circumstances—they all become disabilities when I do not trust them to God’s care. Who knows if Kevin comprehends things I can never learn? After all, he has spent his whole life in that kind of innocence, praying after dark and soaking up the goodness and love of God. And one day, when the mysteries of heaven are opened, and we are all amazed at how close God really is to our hearts, I’ll realize that God heard the simple prayers of a boy who believed that God lived under his bed.

Kevin won’t be surprised at all!

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He Knows What He’s Doing

“I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.” Jeremiah 29:11 (MSG)

In conversations with two different friends today, I was reminded of how big our God is and how we often forget that He is the One in control. Because I used to be the poster child for “control freaks,” I understand when I see others who struggle to completely trust God with all aspects of their lives.

It has been a journey of over 10 years–and I’m not there yet–but I have come to see life at age 58, as an adventure. His mercies are new just as the day dawns and brings hope. We can’t live without either…His mercies and hope.

In today’s rapidly changing world, many of us live in fear. Unemployment is high and so are gas prices. People have lost their homes. Families are relying on relatives and the kindness of churches and other non-profits to help put food on the table. Some don’t know when they will eat again. Life is uncertain.

Ben Franklin was once quoted as saying “but in the world nothing can be said to be certain except death and taxes.”

I would add that there is one more thing of which we can be certain. Our God loves and has plans for each one of us. He will take care of us and will not abandon any of His sheep. Our future is in His hands.

He knows what He’s doing. Do you trust Him?

 

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Everything You Need

I wanted to share the following devotional by Max Lucado because he is one of the most inspirational pastors I know and I love reading his books. I have been blessed to hear him speak at a Women of Faith conference and hear him preach at his home church in San Antonio. At left is a photo of Mr. Lucado with our 2008 Rio Bravo, Mexico mission team. (I’m on the right of Max.) We spent the night in San Antonio and attended church services at Max’s church before continuing our journey to Mexico.
by Max Lucado

Are you hoping that a change in circumstances will bring a change in your attitude? If so, you are in prison, and you need to learn a secret of traveling light. What you have in your Shepherd is greater than what you don’t have in life.

May I meddle for a moment? What is the one thing separating you from joy? How do you fill in this blank: “I will be happy when ________________”? When I am healed. When I am promoted. When I am married. When I am single. When I am rich. How would you finish that statement?

Now, with your answer firmly in mind, answer this. If your ship never comes in, if your dream never comes true, if the situation never changes, could you be happy? If not, then you are sleeping in the cold cell of discontent. You are in prison. And you need to know what you have in your Shepherd.

You have a God who hears you, the power of love behind you, the Holy Spirit within you, and all of heaven ahead of you. If you have the Shepherd, you have grace for every sin, direction for every turn, a candle for every corner, and an anchor for every storm. You have everything you need.

How would you fill in the blank? Respond to this post below.

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A Tiny Purple Flower

“I know that my Redeemer lives, and that in the end. He will stand upon the earth.”  Job 19:25 (NIV)

It was small and almost hidden by the remnants of dead leaves whose brown color still carpeted the cold ground. But the bright purple flower caught my attention.

It was a sign that a new season was struggling to emerge after a harsh Oklahoma winter. It was also Easter. I smiled when I saw the beauty of the flower’s fragile petals because it was a reminder of hope renewed with the resurrection of Christ.

I was hiking that chilly Sunday afternoon with my grandchildren and their parents. The sighting of the flower poking its purple head through the damp earth drew me closer to a time in my life when, like my grandchildren, all was right with the world.

My grandchildren’s delight in the beauty of the still brown and gray scenery, interrupted occasionally by patches of early blooming grass, made me pause and inhale the crisp air that cleared my head, still fogged by winter’s cobwebs. I couldn’t get enough.

As we hiked deeper into the woods and down to a stream, I was transported back to my childhood days, before I was aware that the people you loved could disappoint you and before I understood the deep, abiding love of the One who never would. As a child, I could spend hours alone outdoors. While others formed teams to play ball, I was content to sit or lie silently in the grass. Fascinated by bugs, rocks, flowers and blades of tall grass, I was completely unaware of the passing of time.

That Sunday afternoon, as I climbed the hills and then descended through the valleys with my loved ones, time stood still again. Sounds of civilization were overshadowed by the creek water as it tumbled over rocks and bounced off the banks. The occasional sound of a bird punctuated the air, reminding us that we were not alone.

We skipped rocks in the creek that had recently overflowed its banks after a rainstorm had flooded parts of the area. We studied the intricacies of unusual tree roots that had forced their way above ground, yet had withstood the weathering of time and nature. Fascinated by green moss growing on rocks and tree stumps, we touched the velvet fabric with the tips of our fingers.

My larger, time-weathered hand found comfort in holding the smaller hands of my grandchildren as we walked that day. There was no reason to hurry as we stopped to observe other mysteries, like mushrooms and that tiny flower of hope.

Hope, renewed in something as small as a flower poking its head through the brown soil of life and as basic as God’s love for us, is His promise of better things to come. It came wrapped in a simple hike through His creation to experience the true blessings of Easter, not wrapped in brightly colored foil or synthetic grass but presented unpretentiously in a magnificent way.

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