Finding Peace in a Shaky World

“May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit”—Romans 15:13 (NIV).

A ringing phone after midnight jolted me from a deep sleep. Expecting to hear one of my sons on the other end, I jumped into action when I heard the recorded voice telling me to take cover immediately. At the same time, I heard the tornado sirens blaring. Grabbing my glasses, my dog and my bed comforter, I headed for the safest place in my house—a long hallway.

My heart raced as adrenaline kicked into survival mode. Lying in the hallway, I could hear the strong wind and blaring sirens as my dog and I huddled under the comforter. For what seemed like an eternity, I lay there praying. After the sirens and wind ceased, I headed back to bed, but could not sleep. Turning on the television, I listened for updates as the storm moved across northeastern Oklahoma. Communication with the outside world via Facebook and texting on my cell phone kept me connected with friends and family who were still in the path of the storm.

Storms of all kinds can keep us from finding peace in a shaky world. Two recent national incidents not only destroyed lives but also rattled our peace. With the Boston Marathon bombing and the explosion of a Texas fertilizer plant, people across the nation have heavy hearts.

It’s hard to comprehend the hideous act in Boston but within hours of the bombing, Internet chatter claimed that a “dark-skinned male” was in custody. The 22-year-old Saudi Arabian student was recovering from the blasts in a Boston hospital while police raided his apartment. Other media followed, raising the alarm and suspicions that the perpetrators were “brown-skinned.”

Premature reports like these led to incidences of insults and beatings heaped on “dark-skinned” foreigners who had no connection to the event. A Palestinian woman in Boston was assaulted by a man who said, “You are terrorists! I hate you! You are involved in the Boston explosions!”

The rush for indictment and revenge is not the answer, nor does it bring peace in a world so desperate for understanding. For some, a prayer vigil or service was a way to gather with others to spiritually support the bombing victims, the city of Boston, and even pray for the perpetrators. For others, it was a way to seek answers—or peace, in the face of unsettling evil.

America has suffered much at the hands of both foreign and domestic terrorists. We have become suspicious and fearful. Being fearful, however, robs us of our peace, a peace only found when we are grounded in our faith through spiritual practices like reading scripture, prayer and being part of a faith family. Our faith should lead us to reach out to the hurting, to the disenfranchised, to the lost, to the poor.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said, “Peace cannot be achieved through violence, it can only be attained through understanding.”

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Weathering the Storms of Life

“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble”— Psalm 46:1(NIV).

For my first 16 years, I lived in Louisiana where preparing for a hurricane meant boarding up windows, stockpiling fresh water and non-perishable goods, checking the first-aid kit and having other necessities on hand. Residents were urged to have an evacuation route before the storm hit.

After moving to Oklahoma, it became necessary to prepare for another type of storm—a tornado. With a tornado, the window of opportunity to prepare is not as wide as it is with a hurricane. Therefore, a different plan of action is required. While an emergency kit and a family communications plan are encouraged, one must be constantly alert to changing weather conditions. Tornadoes can spawn rapidly so advance warning is crucial.

While it’s important to be prepared and to know what to do in case of an emergency, unexpected catastrophic events can occur without warning. We think our lives are running smoothly when an unpredictable storm leaves a path of destruction and suffering behind.  Life’s storms can come in the form of a cancer diagnosis, job loss after years of being a faithful employee or unexpectedly losing a loved one in an automobile accident. Living with someone who has a drug or alcohol addiction, the death of an elderly parent, having a child diagnosed with an incurable disease or experiencing the death of a spouse can shake up our world, leaving us grasping for hope.

We have a checklist to prepare for natural disasters. But what about a life storm? Are you spiritually prepared to weather the storms that come your way? Being spiritually grounded means we can face calamity with a peace passing rational understanding. Even in the midst of pain and suffering, having the right resources to guide us through the storm will result in calm.

How do we spiritually prepare? By spending time in conversation with God each day, listening for His voice, we will naturally turn to Him in prayer in the midst of any emergency. Prayer brings comfort and peace, sustaining us when we need it the most.

Second, having knowledge of scripture helps bring solace in times of trouble and can be an important tool during times of darkness in our lives. My favorite is the 23rd Psalm. Another is Romans 8:38-39: “For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

Finally, to be spiritually prepared for the storms of life, we need to participate actively in a community of faith. By worshipping on a regular basis and investing in the church with our financial gifts, time and talents, we have a family of faith to support us in times of trouble.

When we are spiritually prepared, we can say confidently, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.”

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Your Love Letter to God

Jesus replied: ‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’This is the first and greatest commandment” Matthew 22:37 (NIV).

 Can you recall the last time you received a handwritten personal letter in your mailbox? I can’t.

Over lunch recently, a friend and I were discussing the lost art of letter writing. My friend commented on a box of letters written by her mother over the years. While the letters were not filled with anything important, they were a chronicle of what was going on in her parents’ lives at the time. “My mother wrote things that were not earth-shattering but a sharing of their lives,” she says. “When I go back and reread them occasionally, the words bring back such wonderful memories.”

Like me, my friend misses going to the mailbox to retrieve something besides a bill or junk mail, and maybe an occasional card. While some might complain about the price of a postage stamp, I think the cost is minimal compared to the thrill of someone taking the time to pen their thoughts on paper, place it an envelope and drop it in the mail. Although first class letters recently increased by a penny to 46 cents, I still think it’s a bargain.

In an age of cell phones, text messaging and e-mails, the longtime practice of writing letters to family and friends is becoming a thing of the past. Then, along came Twitter and those who tweet learned to express themselves in 140 characters—not words—or less.

Before the age of social media, people wrote genuine letters to their loved ones. Think of the history contained on the inked pages that document someone’s life. What of the letters written home to loved ones from the battlefields of war? I am sure the recipients treasured them, especially if their soldier never returned home.

When teaching high school, I would often receive a note, letter or card from one of my students or a fellow teacher. Although I have been retired from education since 2005, I still have those handwritten missives in a yellow file folder.

Deuteronomy 6:5-6 says, “Love the Lord your God with all your heartand with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts.”

Do you really love God with all your heart, with all your soul and all your strength? If you do, do you spend quality time with Him each day? When we love someone, we seek to spend time with that person as much as possible.

I begin each day reading the Bible and writing a love letter to God in my prayer journal. Since I started journaling 11 years ago, my intimacy with the Lord has grown. I now address Him in my journal as “Dear Abba Father.”

I challenge you to put God first in your life. Spend time with Him each morning. Write a personal love letter to your Heavenly Father. He loves to hear from His children.

Do you spend time with Your Heavenly Father each morning? Have you tried prayer journaling? If so, please feel free to share your experiences with me in the comment section below.
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What are you doing for Lent?

“Draw near to God, and he will draw near to you” James 4:8 (NRSV).

Do you desire a deeper prayer life? Why not dedicate Lent 2013 to trying a new spiritual discipline: prayer journaling? I have been keeping a prayer journal for more than 10 years.

If I could choose the most important differences in my life since I began keeping a journal each morning, it would be the following:

  • A peace like no other. When my world and the world around me is in turmoil, I know where my peace comes from.
  • The knowledge of who I am and whose I am. I spent most of my life living up to other people’s expectations. Now, I live for Him.
  • Contentment with who I am and what I have. Many of us live our lives in discontent and seek things outside of God to satisfy that longing that can only be filled in a relationship with Him. Material possessions will never satisfy.

For a limited time, until February 28, purchase a copy of “Journaling with Jesus: How to Draw Closer to God,” and the companion workbook, “The 40-Day Challenge,” for only $23, which includes postage. Contact me at carolaround@yahoo.com to find out how to get your copies.

For more information about my book, check out http://journalingwithjesus.com/about-the-book/ and read more about the benefits of prayer journaling by checking the archives to the right.

 

“If a journal answers one question, it is
‘What is God doing in my life?’”
–Jan Johnson, author of
Enjoying the Presence of God

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How Much Belongs to God?

“Know that the Lord is God.
It is He who made us,and we are His;
we are His people,the sheep of His pasture”—Psalm 100:3 (NIV).

“Is this your life?” was the title of one of my recent morning devotionals. The author’s focus for that day’s thought was “How much of my life belongs to God?” While visiting another Christian who reads the same collection of daily devotionals, the author said her friend remarked on the blessing she found in reading stories of faith from all over the world.

During their discussion, the author’s friend picked up a copy of the devotional magazine and asked, “Is this your life?” Startled, the author said the other woman’s question caused her to ask herself if God meant everything to her.

Later, she began to evaluate the depth of her commitment to God. She began to ask herself the following questions in her search for answers: Is God really my life, or just part of my life? How much do I spend in God’s presence? Is God squeezed into a few minutes in the morning and again before I sleep? Do I ask for God’s guidance when I plan for the future? Her answers to these questions caused her to feel uncomfortable. She said, “I was humbled by my friend’s question.”

While we make New Year’s resolutions to lose weight, save more money, spend more time with our families and set other worthwhile goals, how often do we evaluate our commitment to God, to give Him more of our time and to seek His guidance in our lives? My guess is not very often.

A newspaper article I clipped several months ago was headlined, “Can true solitude be found in a wired world?” The reporter posed this question in the lead: “When was the last time you were alone, and unwired? Really, truly by yourself. Just you and your thoughts—no cell phone, no tablet, no laptop.”

Is it difficult for you to find solitude? Seeking to be alone for a period is a choice. While some equate solitude with loneliness, those who crave quiet and carve out time to be alone with our Creator find peace. Jesus spent the early morning hours in prayer and solitude with His Father. After a busy day of teaching and healing, Jesus often sought solitude so He could pray, rest and renew.

Sue Monk Kidd, author of “God’s Joyful Surprise: Finding Yourself Loved,” has this to say about solitude. “Solitude is a time for ‘God and God alone.’ Who knows what can happen when we focus only on God. In solitude, we sense our deep oneness with God and keep company with Him. Solitude is breaking through my isolation into sharing and being in touch with my Creator. In fact, we can begin to heal our loneliness by transforming it into solitude.”

If someone asked you, “How much of your life belongs to God,” how would you answer? When was the last time you focused completely on God?

I always love hearing from my readers. Please feel free to leave a comment below.
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Have You Taken the Challenge?

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you”–James 4:8 (NKJV).

Are you as close to God as you want to be? Do you struggle with your prayer life? Do you ever wonder if God really hears your prayers? Do you ever doubt that God loves you?

If so, you are not alone. Even the great heroes of the Bible, like King David, struggled with insecurities. Many examples are found in His Word of people who poured out their pain, grief, confusion, anger, bitterness, depression, and sorrow to God. You are not the first to wrestle with your faith, nor will you be the last.

Lamentations 5:19 says, “You, O Lord, remain forever; your throne from generation to generation…Turn us back to you, O Lord, and we will be restored; renew our days as of old.”

Prayer is not complicated. We make it that way. If after hearing an impressively spoken prayer by another you feel inadequate, join the crowd. Not everyone is gifted orally. However, your private prayers are between you and your heavenly Father and have nothing to do with word choice. It is about the heart connection you have with Him and your willingness to be open and honest with your Abba Father. Abba is the Aramaic word for father, used by Jesus and Paul to address God in a manner of personal intimacy.

In Prayer, A Heavenly Invitation, Max Lucado says, “Prayer is a window that God has placed in the walls of our world. Leave it shut and the world is a cold, dark house. Throw back the curtains and see His light. Open the window and hear His voice. Open the window of prayer and invoke the presence of God into your world.”

Do you want more of God in your life? I hope you will join others as they take The 4o-Day Challenge. Click on the menu above and download your free ebook to get started. If you do take the challenge, please let me know by contacting me at carolaround@yahoo.com.

 

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The Reader Appreciation Award

I am honored & humbled that Derrick Garland Coy, author of A Jamaican’s Journey to Time and Patience, (http://dgcoy.me)  nominated me to receive The Reader Appreciation Award. Mr. Coy is a Christian writer and entrepreneur who lives in Granada Hills, California with his wife, Diana. Born in Jamaica and educated in Jamaica, Hong Kong, and the United States, he is a world-traveler, former pastor, teacher, filmmaker, and business consultant. His book is a portrait of his multi-ethnic family whose African, Chinese, and European roots merge in Jamaica during the 1800s, then scatter across the globe in the mid 1900s, sending him on an odyssey to discover and fulfill God’s call in his life, heal family wounds, and share Christ’s message of redeeming grace and love. It’s an encouraging story of learning to trust and obey God in the midst of hardships, setbacks, and failures.

There are a few guidelines for accepting this award: 1. Acknowledge the giver of the award and provide a link to his or her blog site. 2. Copy and paste the award to your blog. 3. Pass the award to up to ten bloggers. 4. Notify your selected bloggers that you have nominated them. Accordingly, I am nominating the following bloggers for The Reader Appreciation Award:

  • Allison Bottke (http://allisonbottke.com/)–Captivating readers and audiences with a mesmerizing tale of hope and healing, Allison is a bestselling inspirational author and speaker. With a powerful testimony of triumph over tragedy, her transparent vulnerability when addressing painful topics whether in books or on stage, enables Allison to connect with people in a very real and down-to-earth way.
  • Jenelle (http://www.singlemominspiration.net/) is a divorced single mother who is balancing work and motherhood on a daily basis. She has maintained a successful mix of the two by focusing daily on her Christianity and religious foundation through words of encouragement which has helped her through the difficult times. As a result, she created Single Mom Inspirations to provide that same inspiration to others that may be going through a divorce, single parents (and all parents) or just a general difficult time in life. She wants to provide encouragement, strength and inspiration to others based her experiences.
  • Lynn Dove (http://lynndove.wordpress.com/)–Lynn’s blog, “Journey Thoughts” is the 2011 Winner of a Canadian Christian Writing Award in the blog series category. She writes about her daily journey walk with the Father.
  • Lisa Cooper (http://gotbible.blogspot.com/)–Lisa, also known online as Elementary History Teacher, lives in Georgia and writes primarily about history and history education for the weblogs, History Is Elementary and Georgia on My Mind. Her blog represents Lisa’s love of learning for Biblical archaeology, geography and history.
  • Holly Gerth (http://holleygerth.com/)–When she’s not in front of the keyboard, Holly loves encouraging women in other ways. As part of doing so, she says she’s had the joy of cofounding (in)courage as well as Squee! Holly is also the best-selling author of  You’re Already Amazing.
  • Tracy Crump & Marylane Wade Koch (http://www.tracycrump.com/TheWriteLife.html)–You can sign up for The Write Life monthly e-newsletter and get short marketing or writing tips along with current story callouts for Chicken Soup for the Soul and other anthologies.
  • Roy Lessin (http://www.meetmeinthemeadow.com/roy-lessin/)–Roy is an active Bible teacher and co-founder of DaySpring cards. He has written numerous gift and devotional books. His blog is titled “Meet Me in the Meadow.”
  • Lysa TerKeurst (http://lysaterkeurst.com/) Lysa TerKeurst is a New York Times bestselling author and speaker who helps everyday women live an adventure of faith through following Jesus Christ. As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa has led thousands to make their walk with God an invigorating journey.
  • Rachel Olsen (http://www.rachelolsen.com/)–In addition to teaching, Rachel works with Proverbs 31 Ministries as a writer and speaker. For many years she served as Editor in Chief of Encouragement for Today, the ministry’s online devotional. Now she’s busy writing books and serving with the fantastic team at “She Reads.”
  • John Kremer (http://blog.bookmarket.com)–John is the author of 1001 Ways to Market Your Book, which should be on the shelf of all authors and publishers. Actually, it should be in your hands, studying it for all the wonderful tips he gives his readers.

I encourage aspiring writers and readers to check out these blogs.

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Climbing Out of the Pit

“Do not fear, for I am with you;
Do not anxiously look about you,
for I am your God.
I will strengthen you…
I will uphold you”—Isaiah 41:10 (NASB).

 

Depression affects about 19 million people in the United States every year. In the past, depression was a taboo subject. People didn’t talk about it because of the stigma associated with the word. If someone had a “nervous breakdown,” the family hid the truth from the prying eyes of the community.

Thankfully, today, depression is out in the open. Many of us have felt sad or alone at some point. However, when the sadness becomes overwhelming or lingers for a long time, it may be a sign of depression. Depression symptoms can include insomnia, anxiety, dismal mood, panic, thoughts of suicide, loss of energy/weight/joy/libido/love for life. It may conjure up images of people staring through a window at a drizzly day.

Depressive illness, which is a medical condition, isn’t like that Monday-morning I-hate-to-go- back- to-work feeling. It’s not the down-in-the-dumps feeling you have when your return from a vacation to find your house in disarray because your hot water pipes burst. Depression is a medical fact, like breaking a leg, only the broken part is in the chemical circuitry of your brain. Depression can affect people’s ability to work, study, interact with others or take care of themselves. It can be caused by imbalances in brain chemistry but can also be triggered by stress, poor nutrition, physical illness, and personal loss as well as school or relationship difficulties. Healing doesn’t happen overnight.

In my early 40s, I was diagnosed with depression, triggered by marital problems. My mother fought it most of her adult life. If you have a family history, an event can activate the depressive state. For me, healing required counseling and medication. However, one of the greatest tools to healing has been my prayer journal.

Writing down my thoughts in a letter to God has helped me to see how valuable I am. My self-worth took a nosedive in my 40s when my husband (at the time) wanted a divorce because he was attracted to another woman. The fact that the woman was 20 years his junior didn’t help my self-esteem either.

I sought self-worth in other things, including an extreme weight loss and rigid exercise routine, shopping for new clothes because I’d lost 55 pounds, a complete makeover which included a new hair color and seeking approval from others.

Through prayer journaling, I have been able to unravel the reasons my marriage failed. I have also come to realize that God loves me for who I am. I don’t have to prove anything to Him. As I have overcome my depression, He has replaced it with joy.  Psalm 30:11 says, “You turned my wailing into dancing; you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy.”

The opposite of joy is sadness. However, it’s hard to remain sad when your joy is found in the Lord.  Nehemiah 8:10 says, “Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.”

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Are you lost?

“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost” (Luke 19:10).

In my late 40s, I began to keep a prayer journal because I was lost. I began to ask myself, “Who am I?”  My nest was empty. I no longer felt needed by my sons, one of whom had married. The other had just started college. I also went through a divorce after my 28-year marriage ended. I no longer could identify myself as a wife or a mother. Through journaling, I rediscovered the most important part of myself. I was a daughter of the most High God—a God who cares about me, a God who hears my prayers and a God who wants a relationship with me.

Since that time, more than 10 years ago, my life’s journey has become intentional. Instead of allowing my peers and the whims of passing fancies to lead me, my goal has been a deeper relationship with my Heavenly Father, who longs to meet each of us at the heart of who we are and all that we hope to become.

I had no idea the trials I would face after rededicating my life to Him in the fall of 2001. My journal has become a place to record my cries for help as well as the outcome of many of those times of despair. The pages of my journal have helped me to find the beauty of God’s activity in my life and the lives of those I love. When my ink pen flows across the page with words inspired by the Holy Spirit, I find clarity in my life.

Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” It is peace I find after spending time with my Heavenly Father each morning, pouring out my heart to Him in praise and supplication on the written page.

If I could choose the most important differences in my life since I began keeping a journal each morning, it would be the following:

  • A peace like no other. When my world and the world around me is in turmoil, I know where my peace comes from.
  • The knowledge of who I am and whose I am. I spent most of my life living up to other people’s expectations. Now, I live for Him.
  • Contentment with who I am and what I have. Many of us live our lives in discontent and seek things outside of God to satisfy that longing that can only be filled in a relationship with Him. Material possessions will never satisfy.

James 4:8 reads, “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” Do you want to draw closer to God? By expressing your thoughts, your feelings and your insights in a journal, you will be surprised when you discover God in the process. In turn, He will use your journal as an instrument to transform you. Your journal will also become a way of holding yourself accountable to spiritual maturity.

 

 

 

 

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How Can You Connect with Non-Christians?

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you” – James 4:8 (NKJV).

 In today’s technologically-connected society, networking has never been easier. I would hazard a guess that it began with the computer and then the Internet. However, we could probably trace it back to several earlier inventions like the telegraph and telephone. It really doesn’t matter. However, the proliferation of communication devices now available to us can be overwhelming.

In fact, some of these new means of connecting can actually cause disconnect. Take, for example, email. According to the website, pingdom.com, there were 3.146 billion email accounts worldwide in 2011. Email is great for all kinds of reasons because it creates instant communication anywhere in the world as opposed to snail mail. However, for establishing personal relationships, it leaves much to be desired and miscommunication is always a problem when you can’t see someone’s expression and, once you hit the “send” button, you can’t retrieve it.

Text messaging is another example. It’s a great tool for instant communication. However, miscommunication arises when you send short, snappy answers. Without seeing the other person’s body language, you can misinterpret the meaning.

What gives life meaning? A personal relationship with our Abba Father is the beginning of a meaningful, joy-filled life. He desires an intimate, authentic relationship with each of us. Sitting on a church pew, praying, singing and listening to a sermon every Sunday morning does not automatically translate into a deeper relationship with the One who desires a heart connection with us. While those things are part of our spiritual growth, spending quality time with Him each morning before our day gets hectic is the key to becoming a mature Christian.

Setting aside the first fruits of your day in Bible and devotional reading and journaling your prayers and thoughts to God is one of the best ways I know to grow in your faith. I began prayer journaling over 10 years ago, pouring out my heart to Him on the written page and it has led to a closer walk with Him. Why is it important to have a more intimate relationship with God? In John 15:4, Jesus tells us, “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.”

Therefore, if we want to bear fruit and lead others to understand the wonderful grace of God, we must abide in Him. Through an authentic relationship with God, we can have a deeper connection, which will translate into a more caring, natural communication with others.  While non-believers are often alienated by “Christianese,” most can relate to the trials we all face in life. Sharing your personal journey borne through a healing relationship with Christ leads to real connections. However, we must first build a personal relationship with our Abba Father by spending quality time with Him in Bible study and prayer journaling. When you draw close to Him, He will draw closer to you.

(For more information, how-to’s and inspiration about prayer journaling, go to www.journalingwithjesus.com)

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