What do you lack?

“Enter his gates with thanksgiving and his courts with praise; give thanks to him and praise his name”—Psalm 100:4 (NIV).

One of the things I like about technology is being able to stay connected with others. While I sometimes groan about our fast-paced world, I love keeping up with like-minded individuals through Facebook. On November 1, I noticed a 40-Day “thanks”-giving challenge. Each day in November, people began to post those things and people for which they are grateful. I joined the challenge and began posting daily.

During November, we celebrate a national day of thanksgiving, always the last Thursday of the month. This American holiday is a time to remember and give thanks for all of our blessings. For many, however, it’s the only day of the year they feel led to express their gratitude.

Did you know that one of humanity’s most powerful positive emotions is gratitude? Several years ago, psychologists started studying the science of giving thanks. What they discovered might surprise you. When you count your blessings, it makes you happier, even during difficult times.

Psychology professor Michael McCullough has studied people who were asked to be thankful on a regular basis. “When you stop to count your blessings, you are sort of hijacking your emotional system.”

Research by McCullough and others has revealed that giving thanks is a powerful emotion, feeding on itself. McCullough says, “Psychologists used to underestimate the strength of simple gratitude. It does make people happier. It’s an incredible feeling.”

Another psychologist, Maryann Troiana, has her clients keep a gratitude journal. By listing daily what they are thankful for, it changes their attitude and outlook on life. Agreeing, psychology professor Robert Emmons says, “It is important to focus more on the people for whom you are grateful. By concentrating on what life would be like without the good things, especially people like our spouses, you begin to realize just how grateful you are.”

Grateful people “feel more alert, alive, interested and enthusiastic,” Emmons says. “They also feel more connected to others.” Emmons, who has written two books on the science of gratitude, often studies the effects of using a gratitude journal.

In 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, Paul writes, “Be cheerful no matter what; pray all the time; thank God no matter what happens. This is the way God wants you who belong to Christ Jesus to live.”

Thank God no matter what happens? Surely, Paul was joking. What if we lived each day in gratitude for what we do have? What if we recalled the ways He has taken care of us in the past? Instead of complaining about those things we lack, what if we began to take an inventory of our simple treasures and conveniences like family, friends, food, shelter, electricity, a vehicle, our health and more. The list is endless.

While we can be blindsided by life’s unexpected burdens, we can choose to give thanks in all circumstances. Each day should be a day of thanksgiving to God and a lifestyle among God’s people. What are you thankful for today?

Coming soon: Carol’s new book, “Sola Fide: by FAITH alone.”

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Broken Wings

I’d like to share the following post by author & motivational speaker, Terry Lynn. Terri is an expert at choosing happiness and using the Divine navigation system. As a sales manager she motivated and inspired others and became known as Fortune Cookie. She lives in Newtown Square, Pa. with her son Dan. Her intention is to show the benefits of putting happiness first. Her book, Journey to My Soul: Following Divine Navigation can be purchased at Balboa Press.

Growing up in an Irish Catholic home I learned about God early on. One day I searched my whole world looking for God until I gained the awareness that God was within me. So at a very young age I learned that I am not alone and began a friendship with God.

Married at a young age I fulfilled my lifelong dream of being a mother. When my marriage began to fall apart only nine months after my second son was born I was devastated. During my divorce I prayed for the best choice for my sons. My prayer was clearly answered and I walked away with nothing to give my sons a better life.

Four years later that decision had consequences that horrified me. My young sons moved hours away with their dad. Broken and unable to face the pain, I prayed for death. I felt that because God lead me to this pain that God would fix it.  But I soon learned that death was not going to save me. God revealed to me that I was to live. This is where my fight to be happy began. I needed to find a positive focus if I were to survive and I knew I needed God’s strength to get me through.  I surrendered. This poem best describes my feelings.

Broken Wings

With broken wings

My new life begins

Becoming aware

That life is not fair

Starting over again

My broken heart on mend

With hope in mind

Recalls, love is kind

The sadness surrounds me

But an optimist I must be

For every choice is mine

And my life is on the line

A broken spirit without wings

A task too difficult to begin

Strength, delivered from above

Shows as borrowed wings from the Dove

  As I look back on the past thirty years of my life I see the magic and miracles that followed my path. I see how I was directed, carried even, through those dark days. I decided to be happy, no matter what. My children grew up with a happy mom and when they were old enough to come with me I had a great life to share with them. I am so grateful for those borrowed wings that helped me fly high with happiness. Live happy!

You can connect with Terry Lynn at
Blog: http://thinkhappyandbehappy.com
Twitter: http://twitter.com/thinkandbehappy
Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Think-Happy-Be-Happy/160266974028163?ref=hl

 

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Every Day is a Holiday

“This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it”—Psalm 118:24 (ESV).

Have you heard of National Hummingbird Day, National Cheese Pizza Day, Be Late for Something Day, National Iguana Awareness Day, Make Your Bed Day, and one of my favorites, Eat an Extra Dessert Day?

Although most don’t celebrate these unusual days, I was intrigued by the list at the “Holidays for Everyday” website. Some I had never even heard of, but I might implement a few, like an extra dessert on September 4. Oops, I missed that one. Is there such a thing as celebrating belatedly?

I’ll pass on the day to observe awareness of the iguana as I don’t care for lizards. I make my bed each morning so this means I celebrate this holiday daily. I love the hummingbirds who visit my feeder each morning but I don’t know how to make their day special. Be Late for Something Day was celebrated on September 5 but as of this writing, I have two appointments for which I cannot be tardy. I had to skip that one too. That leaves National Cheese Pizza Day, observed on September 4, which has already passed too. However, when I do eat pizza on a rare occasion, I like one loaded with extra veggies.

According to this same website, September 13 is Positive Thinking Day. September 15 has been designated National Thank-You Day. The third Tuesday in September is the International Day of Peace and the 21st is World Gratitude Day. The fourth Sunday in September is a time to observe Good Neighbor Day, while September 28 is Family Health and Fitness Day. What do these six holidays have in common? If you think about it, you will see the connection between these celebrations and scripture.

I located 64 Bible verses about positive thinking, 70 about thankfulness and 54 on gratitude. What about peace? I found 199 passages. I also discovered 90 verses about our neighbors. Looking up the word health, I found 44 verses and 12 about fitness. Verses about the family numbered 116.

Another commonality they share is the relationship between our attitudes and the kind of day we experience when we are living it for God. Consider Psalm 118:24. “This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it.”

If we would begin each day recognizing, regardless of our circumstances, that it is a gift from God, our outlook on life would change. With a positive attitude, we would be grateful, giving thanks, not only to God but also to those He has placed in our lives, including those neighbors we might consider pesky. Think how peaceful our world would become if we observed these holidays, not just on calendar-specific days, but every day. The result would be healthier relationships within our families, within our communities, within our countries and within the world.

We shouldn’t wait for a special day to celebrate but treat each day as one which the Lord has made. That’s a reason to rejoice.

Email your comments to the author at carolaround@yahoo.com or leave a comment below.

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The Reader Appreciation Award

I am honored & humbled that Derrick Garland Coy, author of A Jamaican’s Journey to Time and Patience, (http://dgcoy.me)  nominated me to receive The Reader Appreciation Award. Mr. Coy is a Christian writer and entrepreneur who lives in Granada Hills, California with his wife, Diana. Born in Jamaica and educated in Jamaica, Hong Kong, and the United States, he is a world-traveler, former pastor, teacher, filmmaker, and business consultant. His book is a portrait of his multi-ethnic family whose African, Chinese, and European roots merge in Jamaica during the 1800s, then scatter across the globe in the mid 1900s, sending him on an odyssey to discover and fulfill God’s call in his life, heal family wounds, and share Christ’s message of redeeming grace and love. It’s an encouraging story of learning to trust and obey God in the midst of hardships, setbacks, and failures.

There are a few guidelines for accepting this award: 1. Acknowledge the giver of the award and provide a link to his or her blog site. 2. Copy and paste the award to your blog. 3. Pass the award to up to ten bloggers. 4. Notify your selected bloggers that you have nominated them. Accordingly, I am nominating the following bloggers for The Reader Appreciation Award:

  • Allison Bottke (http://allisonbottke.com/)–Captivating readers and audiences with a mesmerizing tale of hope and healing, Allison is a bestselling inspirational author and speaker. With a powerful testimony of triumph over tragedy, her transparent vulnerability when addressing painful topics whether in books or on stage, enables Allison to connect with people in a very real and down-to-earth way.
  • Jenelle (http://www.singlemominspiration.net/) is a divorced single mother who is balancing work and motherhood on a daily basis. She has maintained a successful mix of the two by focusing daily on her Christianity and religious foundation through words of encouragement which has helped her through the difficult times. As a result, she created Single Mom Inspirations to provide that same inspiration to others that may be going through a divorce, single parents (and all parents) or just a general difficult time in life. She wants to provide encouragement, strength and inspiration to others based her experiences.
  • Lynn Dove (http://lynndove.wordpress.com/)–Lynn’s blog, “Journey Thoughts” is the 2011 Winner of a Canadian Christian Writing Award in the blog series category. She writes about her daily journey walk with the Father.
  • Lisa Cooper (http://gotbible.blogspot.com/)–Lisa, also known online as Elementary History Teacher, lives in Georgia and writes primarily about history and history education for the weblogs, History Is Elementary and Georgia on My Mind. Her blog represents Lisa’s love of learning for Biblical archaeology, geography and history.
  • Holly Gerth (http://holleygerth.com/)–When she’s not in front of the keyboard, Holly loves encouraging women in other ways. As part of doing so, she says she’s had the joy of cofounding (in)courage as well as Squee! Holly is also the best-selling author of  You’re Already Amazing.
  • Tracy Crump & Marylane Wade Koch (http://www.tracycrump.com/TheWriteLife.html)–You can sign up for The Write Life monthly e-newsletter and get short marketing or writing tips along with current story callouts for Chicken Soup for the Soul and other anthologies.
  • Roy Lessin (http://www.meetmeinthemeadow.com/roy-lessin/)–Roy is an active Bible teacher and co-founder of DaySpring cards. He has written numerous gift and devotional books. His blog is titled “Meet Me in the Meadow.”
  • Lysa TerKeurst (http://lysaterkeurst.com/) Lysa TerKeurst is a New York Times bestselling author and speaker who helps everyday women live an adventure of faith through following Jesus Christ. As president of Proverbs 31 Ministries, Lysa has led thousands to make their walk with God an invigorating journey.
  • Rachel Olsen (http://www.rachelolsen.com/)–In addition to teaching, Rachel works with Proverbs 31 Ministries as a writer and speaker. For many years she served as Editor in Chief of Encouragement for Today, the ministry’s online devotional. Now she’s busy writing books and serving with the fantastic team at “She Reads.”
  • John Kremer (http://blog.bookmarket.com)–John is the author of 1001 Ways to Market Your Book, which should be on the shelf of all authors and publishers. Actually, it should be in your hands, studying it for all the wonderful tips he gives his readers.

I encourage aspiring writers and readers to check out these blogs.

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Are you lost?

“For the Son of Man came to seek and to save what was lost” (Luke 19:10).

In my late 40s, I began to keep a prayer journal because I was lost. I began to ask myself, “Who am I?”  My nest was empty. I no longer felt needed by my sons, one of whom had married. The other had just started college. I also went through a divorce after my 28-year marriage ended. I no longer could identify myself as a wife or a mother. Through journaling, I rediscovered the most important part of myself. I was a daughter of the most High God—a God who cares about me, a God who hears my prayers and a God who wants a relationship with me.

Since that time, more than 10 years ago, my life’s journey has become intentional. Instead of allowing my peers and the whims of passing fancies to lead me, my goal has been a deeper relationship with my Heavenly Father, who longs to meet each of us at the heart of who we are and all that we hope to become.

I had no idea the trials I would face after rededicating my life to Him in the fall of 2001. My journal has become a place to record my cries for help as well as the outcome of many of those times of despair. The pages of my journal have helped me to find the beauty of God’s activity in my life and the lives of those I love. When my ink pen flows across the page with words inspired by the Holy Spirit, I find clarity in my life.

Philippians 4:7 says, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” It is peace I find after spending time with my Heavenly Father each morning, pouring out my heart to Him in praise and supplication on the written page.

If I could choose the most important differences in my life since I began keeping a journal each morning, it would be the following:

  • A peace like no other. When my world and the world around me is in turmoil, I know where my peace comes from.
  • The knowledge of who I am and whose I am. I spent most of my life living up to other people’s expectations. Now, I live for Him.
  • Contentment with who I am and what I have. Many of us live our lives in discontent and seek things outside of God to satisfy that longing that can only be filled in a relationship with Him. Material possessions will never satisfy.

James 4:8 reads, “Draw near to God and He will draw near to you.” Do you want to draw closer to God? By expressing your thoughts, your feelings and your insights in a journal, you will be surprised when you discover God in the process. In turn, He will use your journal as an instrument to transform you. Your journal will also become a way of holding yourself accountable to spiritual maturity.

 

 

 

 

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Why Journaling is More than Writing

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also”(Luke 12:34).

Faced with a blank notebook page, many of us cringe, recalling our school years when we were required to write essays on subjects that held no relevance for our lives. When those essays were returned, some of us were even more disheartened when we saw the bloody marks of the teacher’s red pen. While writing is a pleasure for me, others would rather take a beating than be forced to ink their thoughts on paper again. Being required to fill a page with words can be frightening. However, it can also be enlightening when it is a choice.     Why write?

 

 

  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal helps us to capture memories. Even the best photographs can’t tell the whole story. Journals become keepers of our memories, not just the facts with descriptions of events, but the emotions related to that particular time in life.
  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal can help us achieve goals. Writing can help us to define and plan the steps we must take to accomplish our dreams. It can also help us to discover our passion or even a new direction in life.
  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal can harness our creativity. Even if you’re not a writer, being able to come up with creative ideas can help in other areas of life. For example, being creative applies to cooking a meal from scratch, making a discovery in science or medicine, finding a way to cut costs or developing a solution to a business problem.
  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal can help bring clarity by identifying where you’ve been, where you’re at and where you want to be in life. This is more than just setting goals. It is reflecting on the past ~ not dwelling on it ~ but examining your past for clarity. Reviewing past journal entries can help you to identify patterns in your behavior, life choices and attitudes. Once identified, you can consciously decide to make the necessary changes.
  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal can help us to make sense of life. Have you ever been in the middle of a painful experience or watched as a loved one went through a particularly tough time? If we can capture our emotions at the time, it helps us to write through the pain and uncover the lesson.
  • Journaling is more than writing. Keeping a journal is good for your mental health. Are you angry with someone? Instead of getting in an altercation or letting the anger fester in your soul, use your journal to write a letter to the other person. Pour out your anger on the lined pages of your journal but don’t mail it. Instead, go back, reflect on your entry later, and reassess your emotions about the other person and the incident that led up to that point. Chances are your feelings have changed. If not, keep writing.
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How Can You Connect with Non-Christians?

“Draw near to God and He will draw near to you” – James 4:8 (NKJV).

 In today’s technologically-connected society, networking has never been easier. I would hazard a guess that it began with the computer and then the Internet. However, we could probably trace it back to several earlier inventions like the telegraph and telephone. It really doesn’t matter. However, the proliferation of communication devices now available to us can be overwhelming.

In fact, some of these new means of connecting can actually cause disconnect. Take, for example, email. According to the website, pingdom.com, there were 3.146 billion email accounts worldwide in 2011. Email is great for all kinds of reasons because it creates instant communication anywhere in the world as opposed to snail mail. However, for establishing personal relationships, it leaves much to be desired and miscommunication is always a problem when you can’t see someone’s expression and, once you hit the “send” button, you can’t retrieve it.

Text messaging is another example. It’s a great tool for instant communication. However, miscommunication arises when you send short, snappy answers. Without seeing the other person’s body language, you can misinterpret the meaning.

What gives life meaning? A personal relationship with our Abba Father is the beginning of a meaningful, joy-filled life. He desires an intimate, authentic relationship with each of us. Sitting on a church pew, praying, singing and listening to a sermon every Sunday morning does not automatically translate into a deeper relationship with the One who desires a heart connection with us. While those things are part of our spiritual growth, spending quality time with Him each morning before our day gets hectic is the key to becoming a mature Christian.

Setting aside the first fruits of your day in Bible and devotional reading and journaling your prayers and thoughts to God is one of the best ways I know to grow in your faith. I began prayer journaling over 10 years ago, pouring out my heart to Him on the written page and it has led to a closer walk with Him. Why is it important to have a more intimate relationship with God? In John 15:4, Jesus tells us, “Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me.”

Therefore, if we want to bear fruit and lead others to understand the wonderful grace of God, we must abide in Him. Through an authentic relationship with God, we can have a deeper connection, which will translate into a more caring, natural communication with others.  While non-believers are often alienated by “Christianese,” most can relate to the trials we all face in life. Sharing your personal journey borne through a healing relationship with Christ leads to real connections. However, we must first build a personal relationship with our Abba Father by spending quality time with Him in Bible study and prayer journaling. When you draw close to Him, He will draw closer to you.

(For more information, how-to’s and inspiration about prayer journaling, go to www.journalingwithjesus.com)

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